Written by Justin Herald
There are many four letter words that could come out of our mouths when things are getting tough or things just don’t work out for us the way that we had hoped. I want to let you know what my favourite four letter word is when I am in that situation.
Before you shut your eyes expecting something bad, please read on. My favourite four letter word is NEXT. That’s right, when things go south I just say to myself “NEXT” and I move on. I don’t dwell on it to much; I don’t try to breathe life into something that is not going really going anywhere. Sometimes although it may sting, we need to be honest with ourselves and accept that something’s just won’t work out the way we hoped.
I believe that too many people concentrate their energy on things that aren’t going to change, and if they did change they would only change for the worst. All they end up doing is spending (or wasting) a lot of energy tried to flog a dead horse.
What we all need to have is a mental trigger that says to us, “NEXT” when things are just getting too hard. Each week I sit down with many people one on one who are after advice with starting a business, running an existing business or trying to get their personal lives back in line with their personal desires.
I am constantly amazed at the amount of people who sit there and explain to me how long they have been working on something that is not only clear to them but also to me, that it isn’t going to work out the way they had thought it would. Many of those people feel that if they gave up on that dream it would mean that they have failed.
I don’t think that that is the reality of the situation at all. Just because something doesn’t work, just means that you need to either try it a different way or stop doing it and give something else a try. Wasting energy on things that provide no results is exactly that; wasted energy that you will never get back.
There are many things that I have tried that haven’t worked out. Although I did have reasonable success with my first business (Attitude Inc) I was under no illusion that everything else I did from that point would just work out the same way my first business did.
There have been many business ideas that I have started that just went the opposite way to what I had imagined they would. Do I sit there for weeks or months on end trying to jump start life into those ideas? No! I just say to myself, “Ok that didn’t go the way I had planned. NEXT” I still however approach things with a sense of success. For example the new venture that many media outlets have been talking about www.trustytradesman.com.au.
Sure other things may not have worked out for me, but as I move on, I learn from what went wrong and apply that knowledge to my next attempt at something as I have with this new venture.
One of the biggest mistakes many people make when things don’t turn out the way they had hoped is they allow that setback to affect their attempts at anything else, which in turn brings their fears into their reality and they were the ones who caused it.
So if you have suffered some disappointment or failure in the past, have a “NEXT” mentality and get back on the path to achieving your desires. Who knows, your greatest success may be just around the corner.
Justin Herald is an entrepreneur, motivational speaker and best selling author. Visit www.justinherald.com
